My boyfriend won't have sex with me, but watches porn

http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/02821/adultery_2821940b.jpg In our culture we sometimes view casual sex negatively, usually equating it with people having low self-esteem, or an increased risk of sexually transmitted infections. Is this what worries you - or has he expressed unhappiness about his past? Many people confidently and actively negotiate casual sex and experience it as meaningful. Some don’t enjoy all their casual encounters, but are not prevented from having happy long-term relationships just because they've had flings. Might that be the case for him, or has he shared details of his past sexual relationships to make you feel inadequate, or insecure? That would be worrying. You also tell me that he watches a lot of porn and masturbates at least once a day. Both of these issues need to be considered in relation to your next point: ‘he has lost interest in sex’. Are you able to establish if he is simply doing something he’s always done without considering the impact on you? Or opting for porn and masturbation to avoid intimacy and hide a sexual problem? Do you feel his behavior is sexually controlling? There are a number of different solutions. But they are only worth considering if they’re acceptable to both of you, rather than you continuing to accept a situation that makes you unhappy.